The power of association.

Many times I wonder what life will be like if to say na only me(in 2face voice)....hunnn it will be a nightmare am sure. I also wonder why the human was made a social being, having to relate, interact and depend on other people in certain areas to be accomplished like we depend on tailors to make our clothes and "NEPA to bring light"

This tells us no man is made to be an island. You can't survive in a lonely world. Let us take this further from mere interaction with people to the power of associating with people.
The story that stirs me up the most is that of Abraham and Lot. The Bible tells us that God blessed Abraham and Lot who was with him also, it dawned on me that it is very possible to acquire wealth by association. As a matter of fact, it may never be in the plan that he would end up wealthy but guess what? That is what wealth by association is.

Who are you associating with?

The bible says those who walk with the wise shall be wise but the companion of fools shall be destroyed.

You don't get to choose so many things in life, like your nationality or even the family you were born. God didn't leave those choices to us. But he made us a choice being and knowing that relationship is one of the most important things to our destiny, he gave you the chance to choose who we associate with.

The story of Joseph made me understand association at a different level. The bible says God blessed the house of his master because of Him. So you can bring in a housemaid or an employee who would bring chaos into that home or business and vice versa...

The power of association is very strong and you can look into your life and trace it events to one connection or the other that you have made with people in the time past.

Knowledge is useless if our consciousness of it doesn't change, that means you can understand this concept of the power of associating with the right people, but if you don't consciously apply it, then it can't bless you.

Action point
* Do you like your life at the moment? Take an Audit
* What is it that you lack?
Find someone who has it and connects.

We often allow ourselves to be intimidated by the people who have what we lack.No don't be intimidated all you need is to learn how to associate and connect at different levels with them.

* For those who are truly beyond your reach at the moment, connect with their social media profile, connect with their books, connect with their product and follow instructions.

* For those within reach, the bible says a man's gift makes room for him. You must learn to give before you receive. Register your presence in their lives and connect. Make your name unforgettable. Be useful to them, serve them if need be just to remain within their network. Learn and grow as you watch them.

* This is very technical but sometimes these people you need are people who may be far younger than you. You must learn and understand that knowledge and wisdom shall be the stability of our times. If you don't have it, come down from your high horse and learn.

You have to come out of your comfort zone, get over yourself and reach for new opportunities that lie in Association. Your head is good I know but how about two good heads like yours?

In parenting I have had to make friends with mothers who are doing exceptionally well with their kids just to learn new lunch recipes for my kids, I have had to make friends with married couples who seem to be nailing it, I have had to reach out to business coaches to help me bridge the gap in my business, I have had to make friends with people who are more spiritually inclined just to grow my spiritual life. All these associations made my life a lot easier. It's amazing how no one knows it all.

Choose your association deliberately and watch your life skyrocket!

RECONNECT WITH YOU.

  There is a misalignment in our society and that explains why it is upside down.

You graduated without a job, you get a job that underpays you, you get a well-paying job but you lack satisfaction. The dilemma is endless and no wonder workers lose motivation for productivity, if you look around, you will notice our problems are more than our innovations.

What went wrong?

We were nurtured to think and act in a certain way and now that model no longer works as expected. We were raised to lose touch with ourselves rather than to connect with it.

Do you naturally feel unintelligent? You have simply lost touch with your real self. Do you feel unsatisfied or unsuccessful? You are probably not in sync with the YOU.

Who Are You?

This is a question many are yet to find the answer to, they define themselves based on their academic and professional qualification, they define themselves through what the society has nurtured them to be.

The real you...

This is that child who grows up wanting to be something significant and great based on her innocent perception of the world before someone told her you can not be a mechanic but rather be a doctor. You can not dispose sewer(Agbepo) but rather be a lawyer.

We were shaped to see the world in a certain way, thereby ignoring our passion to solve certain problems which were inspired by God.


To end the misery of living with no fulfilment, we must all revisit ourselves and pick them up where we left them, after all the government Job promise we had is no longer available. Why wait one more day in misery before we discover ourselves and become self-employed with what we were born to do.


You and I need to really discover ourselves and then align with the original design


The model was designed to be in this order...

1.Self Discovery
2.Self Development
3.Self Mastery
4.Self Actualization


We are all in search of self-actualization and also investing heavily in self-development without really and truly having a self-discovery moment which should have helped us align.


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DON'T BE AVERAGE WHEN YOU CAN BE THE MARKING SCHEME
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In the world today, there are so many entrepreneurs or business people who are bent on getting your money.They sell you products that they can't ascertain its credibility.That is why people love to buy from people who can show a tangible result from their product. I am one of such persons who believe in the first-hand result oriented product.

I am today a #1. Amazon best selling Author and a certified life coach. And while I was going through my numerous congratulatory messages on the achievements, some comments got me hooked as I couldn't help but think back.

First, it was my university classmate Dele who said he couldn't believe it was the same me he used to know back then in school and my former senior colleague who also seconded the claim that she was also still in shock of how much I have changed, they both agreed that my level of understanding, confidence and the amazing achievements almost did not match whom they knew.

What changed?
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I studied Statistics, a course I knew little or nothing about, but because it was the only available option else I would have to write jamb again...wink. It was during my struggle to succeed at it that Dele knew me. I succeeded partly with a funny grade and out of my determination I went in for my postgraduates, i kept investing my time and effort into it but i wasn't still successful. For Dele and all who knew my academic struggles, they could not relate how a student that was below average back in school is making so much wave now.

Ok. My senior colleague also knew me while I was practising in the organization and how much I worked hard to impress them, but I guess they weren't impressed, at least I never got a promotion...lol. I was constantly intimidated and wasn't just good enough for the demands of the job even though I knew I gave my best. I was constantly feeling like a bird in the water always having the feeling that there was more to me than meet the eyes and I probably don't belong there.

Then I got to the point in my life when I began to listen to myself, I took myself on a self-discovery journey because I wanted the misery to end.I was out of job at some point and after numerous application, nothing was forthcoming. Then somehow God told me it was already in me!

What is in you?
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The ability to succeed, the gifts that would announce you to the world, the ability to fulfil the purpose and leave your name on the shores of time.
For months, I subjected myself to serious thought-provoking process that enabled me identify who i am, my passion, my strength, weakness, threat and opportunities, i explored my childhood to find the difference between the real me and the nurtured me.

The real me was the pure and undiluted desire to be great in my own way through my gifts and natural abilities that sync with my passion. the nurtured me is the person whom my environment has shaped, the person who brings financial gains or economic profitability before impact and fulfilment.

Did you know that all along i have wanted to help people become a better version of themselves through knowledge transfer?

On my journey to a self-discovery, I saw my report card as far back as primary three that read....she talks too much, she is a ringleader why? I was always on the desk in front of my mates teaching one topic or the other.

When I found my natural abilities and gifts i discovered they were in sync with my passion.God is not an author of confusion, He has it all figured out.

I gave up my search for another Job or contract that made me feel like a fish in the sky, I focussed on my God-given passion and while having fun with my gift of writing, I landed myself the title of the #.1 Amazon best seller and many more achievements that brings me cashflow effortlessly.Did i mentioned i had no problem staying awake for days to get result inline with my passion.This happened because the passion has become a fuel that drives me.If you are not motivated at what you do, you are probably not in sync with your passion.

If you see yourself in this article as someone who needs to discover hidden potential.If you are currently jobless and frustrated.If you lack fulfilment, I have you covered.

As a coach, i am an agent of change and my Theory of Change is that, when people discover their real selves, they will identify their passion, create a genuine vision for their lives and have a clear mission that will ultimately add value which will, in turn, attract finance. I believe the solution to unemployment and lack of fulfilment is to genuinely identify hidden gifts & talents and then deploy them right.Only after this can any empowerment program or self development programme be meaningful.

I shared my personal story so you can understand this is no gimmicks, if you want to improve your life 100% then you need the self-discovery process without it self-development and other efforts you put to life will be useless.Discovering yourself will give you direction for your energy and will ultimately make you a star. IT IS IN YOU!

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Become the next millionaire

Where are the Nigerian youths?

Nigeria is a land flowing with milk and honey, you may want to doubt the correctness of that statement when you look at how many people sleep at different embassies for visa.

You may also want to recall the broadcast that revealed how much Nigerian youths were being killed in Libya with only a few making it back home. If indeed Nigeria flows with milk and honey why then do we want an immediate escape route?

Nigeria undeniably is contending with a lot of problems, I mean you can barely look at a system that runs perfectly, so many problems that makes it almost impossible for you and I to go through our day without having to complain about something, even if it’s oh God! ‘NEPA HAS TAKEN LIGHT'.

The great news is that the presence of problem is a perfect opportunity for more millionaires to emerge and if you don’t know, many millionaires are emerging by the day, yes in this same economy that looks so hostile to progress.

Who are these millionaires and how are they been made?

These millionaires are value adders and problems solvers, they are people who are able to identify darts in their various communities and creating a lasting solution to them. They are the people you can’t resist because you know your life depends on them.

They are that lady that identifies an office environ with a lot of workers that has no food canteen and then she makes jollof rice in a big warmer to sell in a car boot only during launch hour using take-away plates at the rate of 300 naira per plate, over three month her sales increased to more than 60plates per day 300*60=18,000 daily and doing this over 20working days=360,000 monthly plus or minus her cost price leaves her with at least 200k monthly. This person is one of my product at TAM building school. She was part of the devastated youth with no job, but after a self- discovery session we were able to discover she had a cooking gift which was outstanding so we helped her mastered the* business of her talent*.

Listen again, If you are broke and worn in Nigeria today, it is because you have accepted never to take responsibility, while money should not be your ultimate drive but rather you must seek to add value with whatever ability you have within.

You must think beyond your certificates for survival, you must add value to lives around you. People only pay for value and the absence of value-adding culture is the reason why most businesses fail.

You are unique with your gifts and the mediocrity in our society today is why our problems remain unsolved. Youths have refused to discover their uniqueness through a self-discovery journey but rather chose to copy what is in vogue not minding if they have a passion or natural gifts that can sustain their newly copied initiative, that is why not every fashion designer thrives and not all photographers become great.

The bible says a man’s gifts will make way for him. If you ever dream of the world hearing about you, you must discover what God has placed on your inside and only through that gift can you be known, you may be fantastic at other things but greatness lies in your gift.

Do you know your gifts?

You think your driving hobby or passion can get you nowhere, you think your singing gift is only meant for the bathroom, you think your passion to impact others can’t put food on your table?

Wait until we show you how and help you create a structure where you can begin to add value to lives and see if money doesn’t flow into your hands.

Becoming a millionaire just got a lot easier.

My final word to you on this is, God is not irresponsible to have made you a Nigerian and he said he has hidden treasures in you and since you know there is no evil in him, he chose you to be a Nigerian for such a time as this.You are created to thrive and not just survive.

IT IS IN YOU!....let us discover it together.

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The boiled yam with palm oil that changed my life

A few days ago, I wanted to make myself a breakfast so I turned on the gas and placed some pot of water on it. I was yet to decide what I wanted to cook and so for some minute I was busy romancing my appetite to know what I wanted for breakfast....great! Boiled yam and a fried egg will do just fine, I said. By now the water was busy boiling and i just kinda ignore the fact that I was wasting some resources.I  wanted to turn it off while I peel the yam to save some gas from wasting as the usual me would have done but I just kinda ignore the urge for no reason. So I took my time to peel the yam and then placed them gently in the boiling water, while I  headed for the refrigerator to get some egg which I seasoned and whisked. Some few minutes later my phone rang and I went to attend to the call.
I got into the kitchen some few minutes later to find out the fire was off...Wait, what happened? I turned the burner on and discovered the gas had finished. Oh my God! I exclaimed, not now, I said because I was really hungry and getting a gas refill was not always fast. I was very disappointed and the saving grace was that the yam managed to boil and was softened a little.So I served some boiled yam and added some palm oil just to satisfy my rumbling stomach.

While I was eating my meal with loads of dissatisfaction, I didn't like nor do I imagined eating boiled yam and palm oil, I wanted fried egg at least.

The spirit of Counsel began to teach me the lessons of life.He reminded me of the opportunities I had to get what I wanted but I blew it believing there was plenty of gas, He reminded me of how I got the nudge to save the gas but I ignored, it dawned on me that the gas spent almost an hour burning with no purpose whereas it would have taken only 20 minutes to prepare what I really wanted.

Our lives is like the burning gas, we let it run purposeless because we somehow just have the feeling that we have plenty of time.You don't! It's unfortunate that so many people are caught unawares like I was because they thought their lives would never end and suddenly got sucked out. Many people are yet to give their lives a direction, yet to get the purpose, they allow their lives to run aimlessly thinking they would do that in the future. How much time do you have?
Some have been on the journey to find purpose and still do not have a clue, why not ask God. Live your life knowing that one day you will be audited, you will give an account of all the idle time.You are meant to execute and fulfil a mandate with your life but are you really living up to that expectation?

I just want you to think again and align with the mind of God for you. Don't waste your life doing the wrong things.Don't get caught up in doing so many things, just do the needful. Don't waste your time, you will never get a refill. Don't procrastinate because tomorrow is not promised.

Help the needy if you must, write that song, write that book, tell someone about Jesus today, propose to that lady if the time is right, honour your parents today, submit that proposal, send the apology text and live your every day as if you have no control over when it ends because you really don't.

Thanks for reading this today, I hope it propels you to take new actions and if you really need someone to talk to regarding your purpose, I am more than available to go through the journey with you. Just leave me a message.

Till my next post....live purposefully.

How to achieve your personal goals without losing your marriage…….a must read for married women

“Well I think marriage is a curse to my personal goals” ANONYMOUS

It was a perfect Friday evening as my best friend invited me for a cup of ice cream, I was very excited to be hanging out with a darling friend after a long week of family routines. Everyone seems to be busy these days with one thing or another. We can’t blame anyone for how busy our lives have suddenly become. I call it growth to live a life with higher responsibilities, to care for other people rather than your self and spend your time making more money to keep body and soul together.

Sorry I kept you waiting I said as I smiled wide from one corner of my cheek to another. It’s okay “Ore,” she said. So what are we having? I asked, as we walked up straight to the service table to make some order. She asked for strawberry, cheese cream and vanilla mixture. I wanted a very little portion this time so I ordered for the smallest cup and then the attendant told me I had only one choice to make. Wow out of all these beautiful colours at play here, how do I get the best one? because I do not have a favourite prior to the event. Then I suddenly noticed I was spending too much time deciding and the pressure I felt from the look on the faces of other waiting customers made me ask him to give me anything. Then I said No wait! Give me some chocolate flavour.

My friend smiled and was wondering why the drama. Then I told her I had issues with making personal choices and decision and I feel a lot at peace when I let people decide for me. It was after so many years I realised that was the exact attribute of a woman who lacks self- confidence. I have been working on my confidence level lately and one of the things I learnt is to decide and stay by your decision whether it yields a good result or not. If you don’t learn this, you will slip into self- doubt that will make you lose confidence in your decisions and in yourself don’t be afraid to be wrong.

Hmm, the chocolate taste great I said with a sense of achievement am glad I was responsible for my own great feeling and I have no one to thank for it.

Marriage changes everything is a statement I consider very true to an extent. In my years of study, I have seen confident ladies grow into timidity, I have seen ladies who made career waves as single ladies suddenly nosedive. I look practically into my life and sometimes I asked if there was something that drained my brain. I have met with a lot of good wives complained to me how they feel their marriage was a curse to their personal growth. Hello, you are not the only one who feels that way but I strongly think it’s not a correct feeling!

A dear lady told me how she had persuaded her husband to allow her to run a business aside her civil servant job but he bluntly refused, the worse part to her was the fact that she had her money and was not requesting any financial assistance from him but he still refuses so she travelled to the U.K to get her pieces of stuff and established her business without the knowledge of her husband. Her husband patronised the shop to buy her stuff and yet she didn’t disclose she was the owner, the only excuse she gave me was the fact that her husband was threatened by her success and so he wants to keep her small. Well, I sense big trouble in the nearest future if nothing is done to correct that error.

I am blessed with a wonderful husband who would stop at nothing to make me succeed. At first, I was one of those who felt marriage will impede my growth not until I met a man who was willing to give me the push that I need. The problem is just that I wasn’t still doing well as I was, as a single lady. What went wrong?

As a single lady, I was very independent, I don’t consult with anyone before I make a decision. I was confident in myself and the decisions I make. I hardly discuss my move with anyone nor wait for endorsement, this way no one gets to transfer their fears to me. For instance, if I had a business idea I would go for it before anyone will get the chance to tell me 10 reasons why it will not succeed. Little wonder I had a very high record of success and the only one that kept me in check was God. He was the only that influences my decision. I was so independent that the only advice my father gave me while leaving for my husband's house was to be less independent and consult my husband on matters else my marriage will face a lot of difficulties.

This thing called marriage must work was my mindset when I got married. I was very determined to give it all it takes. I knew I had the tendency to be controlling and wanting to be in charge of my life. Now my life is tide to another and I have to let him drive me was a bitter truth to swallow. I was operating a different financial principle from that of my spouse. I had my investment opportunities all figured out. The way I love to eat my rice and stew without mixing them both was also an issue because for my spouse he wanted it differently.

I read a lot on submission in marriage as a necessity for a home that works, I didn’t like the concept of submission at first but I was a die-hard believer of the word of God, so I started learning how to let my spouse be in charge. My home knew so much peace that I couldn’t be more grateful for. The only thing I noticed as time goes on was the fact that I was not moving forward with my goals like I should. My spouse was doing great, he had all my support and I hardly hesitate to cooperate with him in all decisions. He consults me in everything he does but I have learnt never to object but rather to tender my opinion as an advice and in most cases, he goes with what seems best. Most times his opinion seems best and I don’t fight it. What that was unconsciously doing to me was that I was beginning to feel my ideas were wrong because they did not come to play. I wasn’t getting the result like I should because I was not making any decisions or following my personal goals. I needed to consult my spouse on my personal goals and most times he may think the timing isn’t right or it was capital intensive and whenever that happens I usually lose my zeal to pursue such goals.I became confused and it was looking like all my goals didn’t fit well into our family plan.

I was praying one day and the Lord convicted me of bitterness. Really? i was becoming bitter towards my spouse for being insensitive. He didn’t know I was never cool with the decisions he made with my goals and most times because I thought being submissive requires that whatever he says is final. I have watched a lot of home break beyond repair because the voice of the woman is not heard. The men are just being human, it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want you to grow or progress. They might just be seeing your progress from a different angle from the one you saw for yourself. The issue is that it is very good for you to go with what you believe in than the ones other believe for you because in the end you will need your inner energy to push the dream through and such passion cannot be instilled it has to be from within.

Women take this too far by no longer consulting their men, they even feel the men might be threatened, I also felt the same way at some point until I sat my hubby for a decent conversation and when he shared the angle from which he was seeing the issue, I realised he meant no harm at all.

How to make your husband dance to your tune
when you use this approach am about to share with you, you will notice a better result and trust me every woman needs her voice, a lot of people who sees marriage as bondage are those who have lost themselves beyond control and have suddenly realised that they have lost touch with themselves. and in search to find themselves they may begin to crave for an unhealthy separation that may end in divorce.Why lose your marriage when you can have it!

1.Your submission is still the very key to achieving your goal, however, submission doesn’t mean that you will be commanding or forceful but rather it means that you will be consistent in tendering your request in a very humble way. Have a decent conversation and explain the reason you want to make that choice and how important it is for you to have your spouse’s approval. You must be sure of your request, many women don’t even have concrete reasons for why they want what they want and that is why it is easy for your opinion to be swept under the rug.

Luke 18:1-4 New International Version (NIV) Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. 2 He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. 3 And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’ 4 “For some time he refused. But finally, he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’”

2 You need to have built a consistent atmosphere that doesn’t threaten your husband in any way.He must be able to trust you with money and other things like the Proverb 31 woman

Proverb 31:11-12 NKJV 11The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

3.You must make use of every opportunity well enough to deserve another, it doesn’t mean we cannot fail at our decisions sometimes because the truth is that our men also make mistakes and the good wife that we are do not go pointing fingers at him for making the wrong decisions but rather we support and encourage them. So also should you not be afraid to fail with that business or any idea he gave you fund or supported you for. But what you know is that you must put up the right attitude and give it your best such that if it fails, he will see beyond the failure and see your good attitude and that will encourage his future support.

4. You must learn to commit the heart of your husband to God in prayer and let him be the one to talk on your behalf when your words may fail. This is the very step we need to take before we present our ideas to him so he can prepare his heart.

Proverb 21:1 1 The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.